I turned 40. Like previous years, my birthday crept up on me and passed without much to do.
Chad Montgomery and Sandra Eugenio became husband and wife on March.28, 2008. It was at first going to be a small civil service (our witnesses and marriage commissioner) at the international arrivals area where I had first physically met Sandra.
But it just so happened my sister was in town with her daughters, my brother was able to make it… and my parents (living in BC now) flew in (WTF?). Inviting along with them long time friends of their's, some of whom hadn't seen me (in some cases) since I was 14!
I never
considered marriage important (the ceremony and all that). It's the day
to day, living with the same person for the rest your life, that's the foundation
of this ridiculous institution. Well, not so ridiculous any more, eh?
Vowing to stay together ment Sandra has to go through the applying and the arduous waiting for Permanent Residence. It's been difficult for Sandra, no question - having been a busybody most of her nearly 8 years in London, England. Now here, she's living practically like a shut-in (only having MY income to rely on) and not knowing all that much about Calgary… or Canada for that matter.
If all this isn't a test for us - for her, I don't know what is!
At the end of April 2009, we should know how well we did with filling in all those forms.
It's ironic how it only hit me AFTER she was gone, just how much time. Over the years, she was there absolutely every time I came home - if not waiting for me, then soon after I came in.
I tried dealing with her death quickly - thinking if I did it the same way one deals with breaking up with someone. You know, getting rid of or putting away reminders of that someone.
But unfortunately
it continued to bubble up from time to time ...and probably will for awhile.
Guilt over whether I provided a proper life for her sporadically haunted me
in the past. Though now-a-days I've been coming to the conclusion, she had
lived a very good and long life (nearly 19 yrs).